BDSM seems a lot more popular these days. Is there still stigma associated with being in the lifestyle? Doesn’t BDSM conflict with modern feminism and the ideas of equality?
Category: Dear Lani
Dear Lani: Goal Setting
What kind of goals would a D/s couple set and what are some ways to work towards them?
Dear Lani: Hard and Soft Lines
I hear sometimes in reference to scenes and kinks, hard and soft lines? How are those lines defined and how to find out someone’s lines? What’s the difference in them and how do you make sure you don’t jump from one to the other during play?
Dear Lani: Position Training
What is this position training that keeps cropping up in BDSM books? Why do BDSM couples do it and what kind of kink is it?
Dear Lani: Dungeon Etiquette
So I think I’ve found a local dungeon to visit. What do I need to know? What’s the protocol here?
Dear Lani: Giving Thanks
A special thanksgiving post, we dive into how we give thanks to our Dominant or submissive.
Dear Lani: Being a Sub Alone
How does a sub survive without a Dominant, especially in the beginning?
Dear Lani: A Bad Dominant?
What constitutes a bad dominant? How can a sub identify one?
Dear Lani: Bedroom Communications & Games
So communication seems to come up all the time. What are some things we can do to encourage that?
Dear Lani: Signs of a Submissive
How did you know whether you were Dom or submissive? Were there certain behaviors or signals that you experienced?